Monday, April 25, 2011

Best Of The Week: Do you mind? Apologies

One of the best things that has happened to me this week in general (not just because it is from humanities class) was a couple of our "Do you mind" topics. Do you mind is an assignment that we have at the beginning of every class. It is an insightful question that we have to force ourselves to think about and answer within the time allotted. Some of the best things about these questions are that they usually make you think about things you would not have thought about without being asked them by Mr. Allen and that since we are only given a short amount of time you usually do not over analyze what you are going to say and just say the first thing that comes to mind. 

Specifically this week though, we had two consecutive questions that really made my head spin. The first one was about who you would apologize to if you had the chance. I said that i would apologize to my brother because even though he has a mental disability and I am completely aware of that I still cannot handle when he does things wrong. One of my biggest flaws is my lack of patience and I learned this by answering this do you mind question. 

The second one was about who you would like an apology from. This is a selfish kind of question. These kinds of questions are always the hardest and seem to be the hardest for most people because when you look around everyone is looking up and thinking very hard about what they are going to say. I  finally came up with the answer of my best friend Leah for many different reasons. Even though she is one of the closest people to me in my life I think that that makes them a lot more susceptible to giving you pain. 

It is so interesting that a class that can be so dull sometimes (sorry Mr. Allen it's just the truth) can also be so inspirational. I hope that I do not stop asking myself these questions after I am done with high school. 


  1. I really like this blog because it I'm a little more guarded about my answers in do you mind, so I love seeing that other people aren't. I also don't know if I'd ever be open enough with myself to admit what you did about apologizing to your brother. I remember I really loved that question because the most important apologies, in my opinion, are not apologizing for a certain event, but more for an attitude or certain treatment over a period of time.

    I really like the other question about apologies because until I though about it, I didn't realize how many people I feel may owe me even just a slight apology. And I didn't realize that I think i deserve bigger apologies from some people too. What you said about Leah and how people closest to you probably are more likely to behave in a way the warrants an apology is dead on. Of the people who I think owe me apologies, they are some of the people I am closest too.

  2. Elyse -
    I definitely agree with you that the do you mind questions has made Humanities much more insightful and much more "human" in the sense that we are all sharing our real thoughts that essentially are very similar.
    Also, I really am grateful for the people who are so trusting to share their true thoughts about these questions because I know personally sometimes I have a hard time sharing what I have written down because I am insecure or uncomfortable.
    What's interesting about this prompt is that you talked about the two questions that dealt with apologies. Surprisingly and ironically for me, when I answered the first question the first day (who would you apologize to) I wrote my dad, and the second day, (who owes you an apology) I had also put down my dad. It was mostly because coincidentally we had gotten into an argument before class the second day.
    Overall I do also agree that these questions do throw me off a bit and force my mind to think deeper and harder than usual, but I know that eventually these will definitely be something I will remember for the rest of my life.

  3. Elyse,

    After reading this blog post of yours, I don’t just want to say that I totally agree but I would also add that I really respect what you said. I agree that without the Do You Mind questions, I would certainly not have thought about a lot of things about my life that Mr. Allen has helped me to remember. I respect that you are always so open and willing to share your answers to Mr. Allen’s questions.

    Specifically related to you, I too was a bit taken back by the questions concerning apologies. I also had the most difficult time trying to answer the question concerning whom I would like an apology from. I asked for an apology from my mom because, like you, she is one of the closest people in my life and I agree that it is easy for the people you trust and feel close with to be able to hurt you all the same.

  4. Elyse,
    I completely agree that these Do You Mind questions are very intriguing and really get you thinking. I love how most class periods, you offer to share your answers with the whole class even if it may be some what personal. I'm one of those people who like to keep those things to myself and I respect you completely for sharing.

    A lot of the questions we have had in the Do You mind exercise to me can be very personal, but can also show you a lot about your self that you never really thought of. I agree completely about how they make you think harder than usual since I haven't severely thought about any of these questions before now but would like to keep thinking about them after class is over. All of these questions seem to help me realize little things that i could be doing better.